How to Get to Know a Guy? Boyfriend Questions
If you’ve been dating a guy for a while (like a month), it’s time for some relationship questions. The honeymoon phase is almost over and you want to know whether your new relationship can stand the long haul ahead. It’s wise to start delving into what your new boyfriend thinks of a more permanent commitment. Meeting weekly for the frisky and the occasional home movie isn’t enough. You have to work with a plan, and you can only do that if you know enough about your new partner.
A reminder though. Make it simple, and avoid being too nosy. Remember, some guys dislike being “invaded” with questions too early, so if he doesn’t like chatting about his past, it’s wise to take the indirect road rather than the direct one.
Goals in Life
Everyone has future plans, and if your guy doesn’t have one, watch out. He may be a “live for the moment” type of guy who doesn’t care about the future, or he could be thinking of stuff to do that doesn’t include a committed relationship. Don’t get annoyed if he clams up about his plans. Normal conversation will tell of things he desires, the places he wants to go to etc. It’s up to you to figure out where you belong in the whole scheme. If he’s too vague, you can simply ask, for instance “so can I join you on your trip to Africa?” If he’s skittish, he probably doubts whether your relationship can last that long.
Family and Relatives
A guy’s relationship with his relatives and family tells of his values. Asking about a guy’s background is common, but keep your eyes open to hesitations and discomfort when talking about his childhood. You can learn a lot about a guy and where he’s coming from by looking into what his childhood was like. Does he have an older female relative he looks up to? Be aware of the close ties he has with his family members, he may extend the same feelings to your family in the future.
Money Questions
Money and lifestyle are topics that a guy does not discuss with his girl, for obvious reasons. If he’s “decidedly single” when you met him, he might not take kindly to prying about how he spends his cash and where he gets his monthly moolah. Instead of asking directly, do the math yourself. Is his current salary enough to sustain his lifestyle? What items does he buy for himself monthly?
The point of asking questions is to gauge a guy’s qualifications as your boyfriend. Ditch the “mysterious guy” perception when you’re already neck deep in a relationship with him and start getting smart!
